Calling You Out!

That's right, my panties are in a wad! This time though, I'm justified. It's not me, it's you.

Let me fill you in on what I do.

I'm a mom, I do the mom thing. I live FOR MY CHILDREN 26 days in a normal month. 4 days in a normal month, my children are off with other family. Some, dad, some aunts and uncles, some grandparents, and I do me those 4 days a month. At least that is how it should be.

Is it a problem for me? NOPE! I absolutely LOVE IT! My children are sometimes on my nerves, but most of the time pretty good short people.

I have this child, with my ex husband who I think is a complete moron. Lately, I've been trying to work with him more, be more fair when it comes to my child and his time, and include this loser in more of his life.

He complained REPEATEDLY, that it is MY FAULT that this child believes that his dad doesn't WANT to spend time with him. I felt that maybe it was, and so began to work on changing MYSELF so that the shitty parent could be more involved and the child wouldn't feel the way he does.

Then, it happened. The father who insists the child's feelings are the Mothers fault, gets a night in which he is free. Not working, just free time. Guess what happens?

HE DOESN'T WANT TO SEE HIS CHILD, HE CHOOSES TO GO TO THE BAR INSTEAD!

The next day, I decide I should speak to him about how he is sending the message that he doesn't want to spend time with the kid, His reply? "I don't care about your opinion, I'm on a hot date."

SMH! SMH! SMH!!

He hasn't changed, he doesn't WANT to spend time with the child, he just wants ME to take the blame for HIS FAILURES!

NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!

I have been kind, I have attempted to assist him in BEING ANY TYPE OF RESPONSIBLE PARENT, it doesn't work. The reason it doesn't work is because he doesn't want to be a parent, he wants to be an inconvenience.

Next time he chooses to bring his crap to me, and whine about how things are my fault, he damn well better be WILLING to commit to parenting.

If the only thing you want to be to your child is a bi weekly warrior, keep your mouth shut about everything else. The way your child thinks of you has everything to do with what YOU show THEM. Take a moment, anyone with a child knows this is reality.

May your children be your priority, always.